Words versus FACTS

I can see that there are more women bloggers out there than men. I can't win with words but I can win with facts. However, those with words will try to win more than those with facts. You can see that in media and everywhere else.

My work has cut my pay for the next two years and my wife is not getting paid this summer so my reality of paying the bills builds on my heart, mind and soul.

In this world, we all need more affirmation and less confrontation that if you can’t say something nice, keep your mouth shut. Often, I see flaws and often keep my mouth shut because I have flaws of my own.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven….a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak….” Ecclesiastes 3:1 & 7

Financial disagreements are a normal and necessary part of any marriage. In any discussion between two people who are, financially speaking, there will always be a certain amount of tension. Tension that, over time, leads to even more disagreements over petty issues.

I know that God doesn't always drop money into our hands because His provisions come in ways to cope with the situations we face. More times than not, the answer to my financial provision hasn't been cold hard cash, rather it's been a way to save, the courage to sacrifice something that isn't necessary, or simply a calm peace.

Remember that God cares for the birds of the air, He cares for me. We need not worry. He'll help us get our bucks in a row. So, I have to learn to share the financial responsibilities of the family as couple by “talking”. Talk about these things, work together that the phrase “Two heads are better than one” rings true. The expenses we make are discussed in advance and our dollars are weighed against priorities. There is no mine and yours—it’s ours. Our financial situations are not always caused from bad choices - sometimes the unexpected happens. Learning to manage the family finances consists of more than how much money is in the account. Money management begins with a partnership. Sharing the decisions and sharing the responsibility and more so, learning to give.

Talking: When it comes to talking men are at a serious disadvantage. Experts tell us that women speak, on average, 20,000 words a day. Men might utter 20. We process information, calculate our response and carefully weigh the impact of our words. Men always put foot in their mouth so men, in general do not speak much. Speaking less is better than being in trouble whenever they say something wrong when they are thinking directly from the minds.

I can see that there are more women bloggers out there than men. I can't win with words but I can win with facts. However, those with words will try to win more than those with facts. You can see that in media and everywhere else.