Monday, February 11, 2008

Denial, Admitting and Willing

Going through recent minor mishaps with my wife and that I am learning that one my flaws really irritates her. Sometimes I forget thinking of my own imperfections and the role I play in my relationship. Now that I am aware of my flaws and I am not going let myself overwhelmed over those flaws I have. This does not mean I see the doors closing when ignoring another door opening. I can over-come my flaws by remembering that my own pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes. Naturally, pride is a fundamental flaw of our nature. What if I did something different? Having flaws does not cause me to fail; not overcoming them does and will cause me to fail. I may have been known by others that I am “resistant to change” and the resisting to change usually the result of poor communication and poor planning on my part. Resistance is a normal phase of dealing with change. I can be very smart and at the same time be very ignorant in certain areas. What I need to do is moving from ignorance and turn my knowledge into action by embracing my flaws and change.

My first step is facing my own denial. I need to stop refusing to apply any new information I have learned about my own flaws. I do admit that I simply don't acknowledge my flaws and often ignore them. I know that change will be unavoidable and I need to stop putting obstacles that have been preventing me from changing.

Well.. that's my first step for a 49 year old man trying to change so I won't irritate her any longer. LOL


whimsicalnbrainpan said...

At least you are trying.

Karen said...

Change is good! :)

Casdok said...

Realising and admitting it, is an admirable place to start!

LaRonda said...

One of the hardest things to do is look in the mirror and admit we have imperfections. Yet that is what makes us human. There is always room for growth. Keep open to your own evolution. It's the greatest journey!

~ LaRonda