Denial, Admitting and Willing

Going through recent minor mishaps with my wife and that I am learning that one my flaws really irritates her. Sometimes I forget thinking of my own imperfections and the role I play in my relationship. Now that I am aware of my flaws and I am not going let myself overwhelmed over those flaws I have. This does not mean I see the doors closing when ignoring another door opening. I can over-come my flaws by remembering that my own pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes. Naturally, pride is a fundamental flaw of our nature. What if I did something different? Having flaws does not cause me to fail; not overcoming them does and will cause me to fail. I may have been known by others that I am “resistant to change” and the resisting to change usually the result of poor communication and poor planning on my part. Resistance is a normal phase of dealing with change. I can be very smart and at the same time be very ignorant in certain areas. What I need to do is moving from ignorance and turn my knowledge into action by embracing my flaws and change.

My first step is facing my own denial. I need to stop refusing to apply any new information I have learned about my own flaws. I do admit that I simply don't acknowledge my flaws and often ignore them. I know that change will be unavoidable and I need to stop putting obstacles that have been preventing me from changing.

Well.. that's my first step for a 49 year old man trying to change so I won't irritate her any longer. LOL