Friendship

My wife and I have been married less than 5 years and together as a couple, we are having trouble finding friendship with another couple with similar interests. Often it is recommended that newly married couples gravitate toward other married couples. It makes for a nice, even number and lets you see how other couples handle their relationships. C.S. Lewis said of friendship: “It is when we are doing things together that friendship springs up – painting, sailing ships, praying, philosophizing, and fighting shoulder to shoulder. Friends look in the same direction.” It is hard to make friends, especially for enthusiastic initial introverts like my wife and I. I mean, we're friendly folks, but we are too busy developing friendships. My wife and I are best friends and we both do desire friendship with people who are within our ages and have something in common to share with. She got friends and I have friends. Finding a new friendship as a couple can be more complex than on one’s own, if only because there are four people who have to get along. It's difficult to find another couple who is at a similar stage in life. We both work and we are busy with our children, schedules and other family activities. There are times, we like to have non-family activities with friends. We both like to play board games, watch movies, play Euchre , going bowling, putt-putt and many others. We are "home people". We don't smoke. We are not party people and don't care for parties unless it is New Year's Eve, Birthdays and etc. We are not closed-minded people and we so open-minded enjoy discussing all kinds of issues. We are normal couples who are Christians but we are not closed minded or judge others. We will never be perfect in this world and we are sinners like everyone else around this world. We do not to persuade people to follow our beliefs because only God can take care of that. Its that simple. Practicing charity (love) is a toughie depending on someone's view from where they are sitting/experiencing. That if we have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from His love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make our joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. (Philippians 2:1-2).

We just don't want to deal with with swingers that are not really looking for friendship but rather activity. We are not looking for what they are looking for. We want to have activities like husbands playing golf while wives do something else. We like going out and socializing and its much more fun with another couple or group of people. We do not care what other couples do in their own private lives, as long as they are happy and committed to each other, that's all that matters.

I have looked into www.kupples.com or www.couplets.com. They were featured on the Today Show-NBC. Swingers are not allowed and will be kicked off as these are not swinger sites. But, they do not seem to work so we will keep moving on with our lives until God connects us with another couple.